You’re Never Alone
Turning Loneliness into moments of Self Analysis
by: Robert J. Escandon MA, C.Ht.
Being alone is a big thing for an individual to think about let alone face. We live in a world where our phones connect us to everything, but at the same time disconnect us from the very things that are most important to us. A digital world can be cold at times. Regardless, these smart phones, tablets and even are very own televisions distract us from whats actually happening inside of us. You’re never really alone because you are always with yourself, your thoughts and your feelings. Here a re a few ideas to implement during those times that the connection to others feels like it’s dwindling.
During the day, activities, whether physical or mental keep us rather much occupied. Usually this idea of being alone sets in at night, when the energy is less active so to speak. Use this time to reflect on the days activities. What did you do, what is still left to do that you can start tomorrow or anything within that respect.
1) Write in a journal. Take the time to write about your day. You’ll find that even if you start with not having anything to write about, all of a sudden thoughts and ideas will find their way to your journal and help you clear things up.
2) Deal with what you have to deal with. Throughout the day, we push less pleasant thoughts away. These same thoughts have a tendency of coming up again at night. Deal with them. These are thoughts that need your attention. The more you push them away, the harder they’ll push back. Write them down and clear them out.
3) Technology isn’t always the answer. Many times we feel that by simply being online, we’re connected to others. Many times, being online serves as the most severe type of loneliness we experience as humans. Take time to think about what you’re doing when you’re online. Are you being constructive or are you buying time? Think about what your thinking about.
4) Hard to SLEEP? Try some meditation to get yourself ready for bed. A progressive relaxation always works or maybe even some cool music that can ease the mind from over thinking.
5) Being alone is OK. This is a great time to get to know more about yourself. When you are away from others, another version of you springs to life. Many times its a more inquisitive version of you, a more understanding version of you or even a more patient side of you. But this time is an important time as you are free to think and do as you will.
Knowing yourself better, and understanding what your mind, body and emotions are communicating with you is essential to your personal and social growth.by